Ruby Sparks is a romantic fantasy film about a writer struggling to create another phenomenal book to follow his first big literary break. His first book was a masterpiece of his very active imagination. In his great attempt to awaken his strong imagination, the fictional character in the book he's writing has miraculously come to life. Pretty cool to sleep single and wake up finding a hot red-head cooking in your kitchen in her underwear.
On initial call, it would probably look like just another love story with a twist inspired from the 2006 drama-fantasy film, Stranger Than Fiction. Upon closer look, however, there are a lot of hidden relationship advice we can unearth in this movie that aren't usually found in regular chick flicks.
Here are 5 lessons I've learned from the movie:
1. Being clingy is creepy. Remember when Ruby cried when Calvin let go of her hand because he needed to take a call? Of course, that was an exaggerated way to depict being clingy but it sent the message clear. By holding on to a person too tight, you keep them from breathing. You lock them up in a possessive shell where you leave them to choke.
2. It's not normal to ask your partner to be happy always. Again, in the movie, it was all a bit too much when Ruby was bouncing around with a retarded smile on her face for weeks. True, you want to be in a healthy relationship with a happy person, but you can never escape the fact that every person is entitled to feel things. Your partner will be sad, angry, stressed, happy, excited, and all that. Those emotions will keep you and your partner humans.
3. Being a control freak is a recipe for disaster. Well, you are not a remote control and your partner is not a television set. You and your partner may share a romantic bubble when you're alone but you both have separate lives. Until your partner realizes that he/she is acting like a soldier following your every order, your commander-in-chief days are over.
4. Obsession is never healthy. In one of their most sensible songs, Spice Girls warned us that "too much of something is bad." It keeps you and your partner from socializing and meeting new people. Your partner is not the only person in the world you can talk to, you know? If you don't have friends, you can pay a shrink to listen to you just like what Calvin did in the movie. There's always an option. Letting your life revolve around one person stops you from living.
5. You can't be in a relationship with yourself. Logically, Calvin was having a relationship with himself because Ruby Sparks was a product of his imagination; his brainchild. No matter how much you try to fix yourself, there will always be fragments of you that even can't be change. We're all imperfect. Live with it. And if your partner can't embrace you and your flaws, then it's time to call quits.
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